Caring, Even for This

What if each meditation practice you did was an act of care? What if, no matter what came up, there was a tender, gentle presence? Can you care for aversion just as you care for love?

Practising care, all in your field are touched by this loving presence.

This caring presence itself turns towards experience. It greets the experience warmly and tenderly, like seeing an old friend, or as candlelight gently illuminates.

All is welcome — even bracing or resistance. Trying to control and manage experience is just what we do. Rather than a problem to be rid of, this too wants care and love. Ask “can I be with this?”

In difficult moments bring in the phrase: “may I hold this lightly.” You can also imagine yourself placing the difficulty next to you so you are sitting next to it. When called for, imagine the Buddha or Quan Yin as a figure of loving presence — giving you the capacity to be with and hold this tenderly.

Equanimity – Open, Soften, Allow (Guided Meditation)

Equanimity is being with experience without the push and pull of craving and aversion, without trying to change how things are. To practice equanimity you can shift into a mode of receptive awareness, tuning in to what is present and cultivating a relationship of being with. The phrase “open, soften, allow” can be particularly helpful here as a way to encourage a gentle welcoming of all experiences. Here there is an emphasis on whole body awareness as a way to attune to the present moment that is embodied and direct.

This practice is from the Tending the Fire Retreat in September 2025.